Why Do I Keep Choosing the Wrong People?

Have you ever found yourself drawn to someone who is hard to reach, only to end up feeling like you are working much harder than they are? Or noticed that your relationships tend to follow a similar shape — full of promise at the start, but ending with the same familiar hurt?

If so, you may have wondered: is this bad luck? Poor judgement? Or something else entirely?

In this article, I explore how our earliest experiences of love and care can quietly shape who we find ourselves drawn to as adults — and why understanding this might be the first step toward something different.